12.8 Weaves

February 26, 2011

Last weekend, I was setting up myself at a nice retreat, trying to figure out again how to sew littlefoot pineapple blocks for the guild, then getting excited about a new quilt.

And I came home middle of last week, but have been either sleeping or sewing or going shopping for fishing, such that I have not been posting.

First, the highs of fun and fellowship, and now the lows of real life slap you in the face.

It wasn’t until this morning that I got my pictures downloaded onto my computer from the retreat.

And I have to put them on the guild website, and edit them. – err … reverse order on that.

I have to work on taxes for myself, do more loads of laundry, and start to put together ideas for the next podcast.

On another note:

Getting frustrated at the home sewing front that the things I like and make at home are just not appreciated or even liked.

The ladies at the retreat (AND I) liked this following quilt top (well the blocks anyway), but at home — I guess it’s not liked all that much.


I said at the retreat that I really didn’t care if this was liked or not, it was being made, and given away, but …


Also, along the same note, that I know there are things that I may see differently than other people, which is okay.  It brings a sense of style to things, a certain aesthetic.

I love seeing how other people like quilts and colors that I don’t see.  I like bringing this unique aesthetic to myself and to others, to make us all think differently.

To weave others’ views and my own into a great quilty tapestry.


But when I can’t even gauge at home what will be liked and what will not be liked.  I am getting irked.  And more irked, and more irked.

At one point you have to weave what you want and like with what others want and like, especially if you try and try to make something for someone else, who consistently does not like the end result.

So, it begs the question – do I really know this person?  Am I really that far off base to what the person wants to be able to miss the mark THIS many times??

… Actually this wouldn’t be the first ‘present’ to go unappreciated, unliked to the recipient.

Christmas and other gift giving holidays have been a HUGE source of frustration and anxiety, so much so that gifts are usually NOT exchanged anymore.


But still


Because if you give something away to someone else and they don’t like it, then it will not get used and pushed away. Then what is the point of doing something for someone to begin with?

And when you ask what IS liked and you get a whole lot of “I don’t know” or you show quilt patterns and you get no response on those patterns, and you have to just guess what will be appreciated … and then it’s unliked …

So I guess this quilt is MINE.  Or maybe I should auction it away or something?  It’s not finished, so I have time to decide what to do for it.

I happen to LOVE this weaved quilt, and think it would make a GREAT (and much needed) addition to the household.

But forcing it upon someone else who has such a strong negative reaction to it?  I don’t know.



  1. That is really lousy. My DH is a woodworker, so maybe that is why he appreciates the hard work that goes into a quilt. He always has something nice to say about my quilts, and usually wants to be the first one to nap underneath. He has his favourites, of course, but he would never tell me he doesn’t like anything I made.

    Case in point. He wanted some warm pyjamas, and I decided to make him some for Christmas. I went to get a pattern, and his size was sold out, so I got the next size up. Well, they turned out HUGE. And, I got this creative idea when I was making them to put a nine patch on the pocket. Then, in a flash of brilliance, I turned it on point. Well, it turned out looking kind of clownish. And when you combine that with the hugeness of the PJ’s, well… I told him I would not be offended if he did not wear them. But he does!

  2. Folks at my house can be fairly indifferent to what I make too. It’s one of the reasons I started blogging and a big reason that I joined a guild.

    I think that people who don’t make things really don’t get how much of the maker goes into an item. So when they are indifferent or negative towards a quilt they don’t understand how much it hurts the maker.

    I like your basket weave quilt!

  3. I really like the colors and the movement of your weave quilt. I would say complete your quilt. I would say either keep it for yourself. You like blues so it would fit in with your house.

    To me this is an inviting winter quilt to snuggle under with a good book and a mug of coffee or cocoa.

    What I have done for my son and daughter-in-law, when I told them that I would make them a quilt, is had them pick out the pattern and the focus fabric. I then picked out the fabrics that would go with the focus fabric and put the quilt together.

    I also had my daughters and my daughter-in-law pick out the fabric that wanted to have made into Amy Butler handbags. I figure this way they have a gift that they like when I send the items back to them. My daughters and daughter-in-law have their tastes in fabric and I would rather they choose the fabric than have me guess at what they would want to have sewn up.

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